Reclaiming Your Life
Embrace or Erase™
Can I really be the person I desire to be?
Do I really deserve to be happy?
The answer is YES!
Hi, my name is Cathi Clarke.
All my adult life I was trying to be someone else. In fact I have been trying to be somebody else since I was a kid. I never enjoyed "living in my own skin." There were always seemingly "good reasons" to reject myself, after all, I felt rejected by others, even though it wasn’t really true. But if it feels true, it always seems true.
I had a loving family growing up, but would dream about what it would be like to be a person who was happy.
When I was young, I wanted to be pretty and popular. As an adult, I wanted to be confident and smart. I wanted to be successful, to feel accomplishment and fulfillment in whatever it was I was going to do. I wanted my life to be recognized as having value and worth…in some way.
I wanted to value myself and be valued by others…for something. I wanted to build meaningful relationships and have the ability to contribute to their lives in some good way.
I wanted to be happy!
It’s not too much to ask for, is it? But no matter how hard I tried, nothing worked. I had low self-esteem and self-defeating beliefs. Not that they were true, but they felt true. Life’s experiences had made them seem true enough.
I never understood why it seemed so hard to be who I wanted to be.
On my first day of kindergarten, I was feeling so self-conscious with all the other kids staring at me like I was an oddity; as if I didn’t belong.
If you have ever had that feeling like you don’t belong somewhere, you know how much emotional hurt goes along with it. Life’s experiences, when accompanied with a strong emotion like hurt, can stick with you for a long time. In my case a very long time, in fact most of my adult life.
At some point, early on, I settled for a definition as to why I had no confidence and low self-esteem-I was shy.
That explained everything! Shy people have a difficult time making friends, being social and they definitely don’t feel they have what it takes to be successful and happy.
Of course I hated this and I worked hard to "get over" my shyness and overcome my low self-esteem. I took public speaking classes, made every effort to practice meeting new people and trying new things. I would go to places where I could practice starting a conversation.
The airport was my favorite place, for awhile. I would try to blend in pretending that I was coming or going. (Of course, security was non- existent in the ’60’s) I would jump in and walk with the flow of footraffic and say something casual and quick to a stranger walking alongside me. They would only need to respond with a gesture or a few short words, nothing lengthy. Even if they just smiled, it would be a success!
I know, this all sounds very pathetic, but it demonstrates how badly I wanted to change. I was very determined to make myself different, but no matter how hard I tried, I could not overcome my low self-esteem and build confidence within. But with each exercise ending up in failure, it became a lost cause.
I didn’t feel any significant change on the inside. As life moved on, I resorted to forcing myself to get out there and do what was necessary to survive and then retreat to the love and safety of family and a few close friends.
It was the old method of "Fake it till you make it", except I never did make it. It wasn’t until much later in life, that I began to understand the reason for my lack of results.
I was trying to make changes, but without understanding God’s design of the mind and heart-I was going about it all wrong. I was actually doing the opposite of the way God designed the process. I was trying to change myself from the outside in instead of, from the inside out. Let me explain.
I had been a Christian since childhood and had read the Bible for most of my life including the verses that explain the godly design of the thought processes of the mind. There are a number of places in scripture that speak about the difference between the heart and the mind.
Biblically, the heart is spoken of to represent the innermost part of me, the place where I hold my beliefs. These are called "core beliefs"-what I hold as true about myself, my life and the world around me.
I am not born with core beliefs but I learn them along life’s way.
Here is a simple example…if I repeatedly think that I am a shy person for any number of reasons, and I never stop to question it’s truth, then this will become a thought pattern. If this thought pattern has many experiences attached to it, (as in my case) along with emotional energy (hurt, embarrassment, fear), it will eventually settle into the deepest part of my belief system. It will settle into my heart and this will become my core belief.
This is where "Embrace or Erase" comes in. The concept of "Embrace or Erase" is to embrace all the thought patterns and beliefs that bring you success, fulfillment and happiness-all the things God designed for mankind. This mindset that serves you well is to be embraced. The next step in this process is that you will erase or eliminate the thought patterns of self-limiting beliefs that do not serve you.
This process is all within your godly design. God has given you inborn ability to keep the beliefs that are good for you and release those beliefs that are not. This is not shifting to positive thoughts or visualization; I literally mean erase those damaging core beliefs!
The scripture refers to this process as "putting on" and "putting off".
I will explain more about this in the "Articles" section. But for now, I will simply say that "Embrace or Erase" is a simple process that anyone can apply. It is a biblical view of the very effective and well-known method called "EFTTM" which stands for "Emotional Freedom Technique" developed by Gary Craig.
I have reclaimed my life and so can you. I am now the person I have always dreamed of being. That person was always there, buried deep down under a huge pile of self-defeating core beliefs. If I had only known how simple it was to reclaim my life, I could have done it long ago. Everyone is born with this ability so it is a natural, godly process-we simply didn’t know it was available and no one showed us how.
I want to explain something very important first, so you can understand how powerful this process really is.
Think of a critical statement that pushes an emotional button. Something someone has said to you or maybe you say to yourself. It might be a comment that has to do with your abilities or your physical appearance. Maybe it has to do with your culture or your race. Maybe it’s that bully in seventh grade telling you how stupid you are in front of the entire classroom. Everyone has a few of these, have you got yours in mind? What is your body feeling? Do you have a knot in your stomach or is your heart beating faster?
Now let’s realize that these are just words and said to someone else or said under different circumstances, they might have no effect at all. The reason these words feel like a knot in your stomach and don’t evoke any response in someone else is because you have a negative emotional connection to those words.
Words have energy and hurtful words actually do hurt, not only mentally but physically as well. A high school friend telling me she thought I was conceited and stuck up felt like she punched me in the stomach. I was being wrongly accused of something, but more than that, it connected directly to my dislike of being shy.
What if you could separate the connection of emotional energy from those words? What if you could disrupt or disconnect the energy from the words and release it? And what if you could then replace it with words that gave you the feeling of strength and encouragement?
This is what the scriptures describe as "putting on" and "putting off".
God has given you this ability to exercise by your free will.
When you erase your negative emotional beliefs, they no longer steer your life to a dead end. Now you can embrace a new set of core beliefs which allow you to set your rudder and steer your life to success and fulfillment. Now you have reclaimed your life.
This is God’s design and this is the process of Embrace or Erase™.
I have both public and member-only sections of the site, so let me take you on a tour.
Obviously, this is where you will start and where I present the foundational material for the Embrace or Erase™ process. I have two public sessions here, starting with Session 1 of "The 6 Pillars of the Prosperous Mind" by my husband Duke Clarke and a session that we did together called "Why I Am Not Accomplishing My Goals and How to Find Happiness".
These podcasts will give you some insight about the process of Embrace or Erase™. As a member, you would then download my manual and continue with the rest of the recordings.
Twice a month I will be doing live Tele-seminars on different topics and coaching members through the many aspects of Embrace or Erase™. Each session will have a tapping session at the end and will be posted as a podcast the next day for review. Be sure to view the "Tapping Demo" under Phrases before tapping so you understand the process.
This will be the area for the public blog about Embrace or Erase™. I will also be posting detailed articles, podcasts and videos on the many uses of Embrace or Erase™.
In this area you can read about the results that members are having and share your own results. As a community, we can both celebrate with you and learn from each other.
I have posted podcasts with different phrases that address general issues common to many people. Watch the "Tapping Demo" first then play the phrases and tap along. This is an active practice area for members to learn the process of Embrace or Erase™ and become comfortable with how it works.
Obviously this is how to reach me if you have any questions about Embrace or Erase™.
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