I spent many years of my life re-living my past–remembering all the people that caused me hurt and embarressment and regreting my weakness in putting up with it. I wasted so much time and energy re-living the events and telling people off on the stage of my mind…standing up for myself in my dreams. Oh, how I wished I could go back…
I always hated re-living past events and even though I made a conscious effort to put my past behind me and move beyond it, I was never able to. It was always waiting in the wings to overwhelm me when least expected, triggered by some unsuspecting person or event. I would have to re-live my past hurt all over again.
I really wished I could go back into the past and change it. You know…a "do-over". If I could just go back and do it differently, go back and fix it. Knowing what I know now, I could go back and re-do it the way I should have then.
But what I know now, is just as good as going back. What I know now is that I can let go of my past hurts, not by burying them but by releasing them. I end the cycle of re-living my past by releasing my past. God has given us the ability to forget our past. The scriptures call it "putting off."
It doesn’t mean that I forget what happened because my brain has recorded everything. I don’t forget the events or people but I do release the negative emotional energy connected to them. I no longer feel them, even though my brain still carries their photo. The photo now can begin to fade because it no longer feels important enough to keep in focus. I now feel comfortable to remove this photo from "My Life’s Active Photo Album" and put it in the shredder.
You see, if we could go back and change our past, our lives today would probably be different. We can’t go back and un-do what was done. But we change it’s influence on today by letting it go.
What I choose to think and do today is all up to me. By choosing to put off my past, I have altered my present because I am letting go of my need to re-live it. I have the freedom to choose a new course, a new beginning…a "start-over" rather than a "do-over."
The dawning of a brand new day in my life…
Warmest regards,
Cathi
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Hi Cathi:
The other day I was walking my dog and a situation that I allowed to frustrate me came up –and it is not the first time - as I spoke out loud to myself about the situation and how angry I was about it and how I wanted to change it but had no authority to do it — since I can only change myself!(Runon sentence.) Darn, I sure wish I could change some of the people around me -but I can’t. I can’t even imagine how God deals with our inadequacies when He has all the best ideas and answers. Hmmm.
Anyway, I noticed I was talking to myself in a very emotional way and I said, “Joan, what are you doing? Will this change anything? I think you are holding on to an issue that is dead and gone?” “Uh huh,” I said to myself. Whether the past is 50 years ago or 5 hours ago, or 5 minutes ago, it is still dead and gone. So holding onto it makes no sense because as you say, there are do-overs!
The Erase or Embrase techniques are so powerful and work so well and I again utilized them to release all the negative energy and had a wonderful walk with my doggie.
Thank you so much, Cathi, for helping me to alter my present by letting go of my past. You are the best friend a person could have.
Love you,
Joan Vail
Hi Cathi, thank you so much for all this so helpful information. I have just started reading these articles and I have taken a stand to really put off the hurting feelings that are holding me back. It is so good to know that there is no condemnation to put those memories off no matter if it has to do with family issues. Culture, religion and beliefs that are so tiny compared to the freedom and release God wants us to live. I haven’t been able to find where the tapping demo is yet, but I am reading the material. I know I will find that demo at the right time. Thanks again and we are in touch.
God bless you,
Coco Trigos